It's been a hell of a month
I try not to talk too much about my family relations on this blog. They're insane, and I'm not. Basically covers it.
However, to give everyone the proper feel for my current situation, I suppose I'll have to do a little bit of explaining.
First, my mom is a depressed hypochondriac. She has acted like she's dying for the last 20 years. She smokes too much, and has developed Type II Diabetes due to her bad eating habits and her lack of any sort of exercise.
About 15 years ago, she started living with this guy. They started out as boyfriend/girlfriend, but ended up being more like roommates. I'll call him JP. JP was in Viet Nam, and had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He was an alcoholic with serious rage issues. Didn't work since the mid-80's. Basically just mooched off my mom most of the time.
When she'd complain about JP, we'd tell her to kick him out. However, she didn't want to be alone. With her failing health, etc etc etc, having "someone" was, in her mind, better than being alone.
During the past 15 years, JP has been to jail twice. The first time for assulting a police officer (or something to that effect), and this last time for DUI. He went to jail the first week in January, and got out the first week of February.
The day JP got out of jail was the day he died. He came home, did some errands with mom, then went to the barber shop that afternoon to get his hair cut. He died at the barber shop of a massive heart attack.
I kinda felt bad for mom. I mean, she cared for the guy. But even she said he missed out on so much because he just dropped out of life years ago. So, we've been dealing with that for the last week and a half.
I knew when she told me about JP that I was going to have to take care of her more often. As much as JP and I didn't get along, he was useful.
Mom just called me. She fell down yesterday. She can't walk right now.
On top of that, Hubby has the flu, and has been off work for the last two days. He can barely rouse himself to eat.
I'm waiting to hear back from my mom to see if I can get her into see her doctor.
I also have to make sure my own girls are taken care of. Hubby is in no shape to help anyone right now.
Is there some kind of cloning device I could use? I need at least one more of me. Maybe two.
However, to give everyone the proper feel for my current situation, I suppose I'll have to do a little bit of explaining.
First, my mom is a depressed hypochondriac. She has acted like she's dying for the last 20 years. She smokes too much, and has developed Type II Diabetes due to her bad eating habits and her lack of any sort of exercise.
About 15 years ago, she started living with this guy. They started out as boyfriend/girlfriend, but ended up being more like roommates. I'll call him JP. JP was in Viet Nam, and had been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He was an alcoholic with serious rage issues. Didn't work since the mid-80's. Basically just mooched off my mom most of the time.
When she'd complain about JP, we'd tell her to kick him out. However, she didn't want to be alone. With her failing health, etc etc etc, having "someone" was, in her mind, better than being alone.
During the past 15 years, JP has been to jail twice. The first time for assulting a police officer (or something to that effect), and this last time for DUI. He went to jail the first week in January, and got out the first week of February.
The day JP got out of jail was the day he died. He came home, did some errands with mom, then went to the barber shop that afternoon to get his hair cut. He died at the barber shop of a massive heart attack.
I kinda felt bad for mom. I mean, she cared for the guy. But even she said he missed out on so much because he just dropped out of life years ago. So, we've been dealing with that for the last week and a half.
I knew when she told me about JP that I was going to have to take care of her more often. As much as JP and I didn't get along, he was useful.
Mom just called me. She fell down yesterday. She can't walk right now.
On top of that, Hubby has the flu, and has been off work for the last two days. He can barely rouse himself to eat.
I'm waiting to hear back from my mom to see if I can get her into see her doctor.
I also have to make sure my own girls are taken care of. Hubby is in no shape to help anyone right now.
Is there some kind of cloning device I could use? I need at least one more of me. Maybe two.
posted by Callie | 2/13/2008 09:38:00 AM
6 Comments:
That’s an awful lot to deal with at once, Callie. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Remember to take care of yourself, your husband and your kids first, and then take care of other things if you have the time.
Ookami - yeah, tell that to my supervisor. LOL
Nick - thanks a bunch!
Aw sweetie, when it rains it pours! I'm thinking about you, and in all my spare time I'm working on that cloning idea. Make sure you keep yourself well, too!!
I am so sorry for your situation but "This too shall pass." You need to take care of YOU first. If you get sick or hurt who will take care of the babes in your life. Then there is LOWK...suck it up LOWK, you know the drill. As for your mother...do what you can, when you can but...your immediate family comes first. Your income is part of your support to the family. Then you can go save the world...We Blogger Budds are about as useless as you know what when it comes to help. ookami was giving you good advice, sorry about the supervisor. Our supervisors are a little more supportive of family. You could work at home, or we would take you home if needed. I will send up a few prayers for your help....
I'll just give you big, fat {{{HUGS!}}
Hope it all gets better soon! Sorry you're dealing with so much crap at once. XO!
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